Kisa Program | Health Session | 3rd October 2025
When was the first time you felt comfortable discussing delaying sex or about sex with someone older than you as a young person, especially because you had questions about your body? How was the experience, did you receive the right information?
It has been common for many to have fewer open discussions about sex and delaying sex with young people, out of fear that such conversations might lead them to make the wrong decisions. Such topics are often avoided, or not openly discussed as many wonder: why talk about personal sexual experiences if everything about it is considered private? What if in the end one starts practicing unsafe sex or even safe sex but at a younger age? Instead, many choose to communicate through fear, focusing on the consequences if sex is practiced and the outcomes seen or heard, for example, saying, “If you get pregnant, I will throw you out of my home,” a common message from some parents.
Our latest Kisa session has once again shown that open discussions about sex help girls make better and more informed decisions about sexual activity.
GLAMI program sessions are often known as “Safe Spaces,” where scholars build strong relationships with mentors and social workers, which in turn creates an environment for even “uncommon” discussions. Kisa scholars become more confident and speak freely and comfortably, engaging in such conversations without fear. These sessions help provide accurate and honest information, especially for scholars who have questions about difficult topics that need answers. The discussions are supported through shared knowledge, practical examples, and strategies that girls can apply in different life situations.
One of the topics discussed with Kisa Program scholars includes sex, delaying it and the consequences. “Avoiding conversations around relationships and personal boundaries does not protect girls, it limits their access to accurate information,” Diana, Outreach Social Worker.
First and foremost, the subject of sex, a taboo for many, was brought to the table. There were mixed reactions of surprise and relief as the mentors normalized the topic, ensuring the girls felt safe and comfortable sharing their thoughts and experiences. GLAMI Outreach Social Workers explained aspects of sexual relationships in a way that was easy to understand. Kisa Scholars sat in groups to discuss the topic by sharing experiences and even discussing more of the questions they had that needed answers.
An in-depth discussion on delaying sex then followed, highlighting the importance of waiting. Through real-life stories and hypothetical situations, the girls were able to better relate to the risks of early sexual activity and the benefits of delaying it. “When girls see real situations they can relate to, it becomes easier for them to understand the consequences of early sexual activity and make informed choices,” said Diana, Outreach Social Worker. They were also guided on how to stand their ground when faced with sexual advances or peer pressure. “The real life stories helped me understand the risks better and gave me the courage to say “NO” when I am pressured,” said Kisa scholar Kifaru.
One of the significant highlights of the discussion was a conversation about decision-making and how it ties back to sex. It opened a space for reflection and exploration on the weight our decisions bear on our lives, how poor choices can lead to regret, and the essence of a good decision-making process. They also discussed societal pressures that often mislead girls into engaging in sex prematurely, leading to unforeseen consequences like unwanted pregnancies, abortions, school dropouts, and infections.
The importance of assertiveness and how to say ‘No’ when uncomfortable or not ready for something, was also covered. The girls were made to understand that it is perfectly fine to decline something that goes against their values or when they’re not ready for it.
“At first I thought it is hard to abstain from sex but after today’s session I have realized that I can say ‘NO’ to sex and make my mind busy, because to me, right now is not the right time for sex”- Kisa scholar Magadini
By the end of the session, the Kisa scholars gained valuable insights. They learned to appreciate the gravity of the decisions they make, specifically regarding sex. They were encouraged to always prioritize their education, health, and overall well-being before anything else. Their attitude towards delaying sex showed a promising shift and reflected their new-found empowerment and freedom to make smarter, more informed choices. “I was truly amazed by the level of knowledge the scholars already had. The openness of the discussion created a comfortable and safe environment for meaningful learning.” – Jackline Mentor
It was incredible to witness the young Kisa scholars grow throughout the session, emerging stronger and more informed. The commendable efforts of GLAMI Mentors and Outreach Social Workers created a safe space where knowledge, ideas, and thoughts flowed freely and productively. It is truly important to have discussions about sex, especially for those in the puberty stage, as the most reliable and trusted information often comes from people they are close to. Let us close the gap, challenge the myths, and break the taboo around discussing the truth about sex, abstinence, and everything related to it, to ensure that every young person has the right information and makes informed decisions about sex. Because such informed decisions made will impact their future and goals.
Written and Contributed by : Adina William Luwanda, GLAMI Program Mentor